Adult Bedwetter Has Not Told Girlfriend – What To Do

An adult wrote a “Dear Abby” letter regarding bedwetting which we posted below.

I reviewed the letter written by an adult bedwetter who has not revealed to his girlfriend that he continues to wet the bed.  Parents turn to their medical community – Pediatrician, Physicians, Urologist looking for answers.  Children hear “Don’t worry, you will outgrow this” year after year.  At age 27, this man has experienced multiple failures and zero solutions.

For 39 years my clinic has been effectively treating chronic bedwetting. The staff has a great deal of experience working with teenagers and adults.  Chronic bedwetting is a symptom, not the real problem.  A genetically passed deep sleep disorder is the reason this 27 year old continues to wet the bed.

Our website has a section for adults to help them understand what is going on and to give them a place to take a loved one to clearly explain the reason someone continues wetting the bed.

Effective treatment is available for children, teenagers and adults.  We want to give the man a chance to live his life and wake up every morning to a dry bed.  Please visit our website for more information.


Barbara J. Moore

Founder – The Center for Bedwetting Treatment


DEAR ANNIE: My girlfriend of two years has just asked whether we should move in together. I am currently living with my parents, so we would be living at her place.

I’m not sure how to respond to “Dayna’s” request. I don’t want her to think I don’t like her. But at the age of 27, I still wet the bed. Whenever I am at Dayna’s place, I never let myself fall asleep for fear of soiling both her mattress and our relationship. I always find a reason to leave before morning. How do I broach this subject with her? — Bedwetter

DEAR BEDWETTER: Childhood enuresis that persists into adulthood often runs in families. First, see your doctor to find out whether you can get this under control. Discuss medications and exercises to increase bladder capacity. Limit your beverage intake so you aren’t drinking past late afternoon. Alcohol and caffeine can aggravate the condition.

You are under no obligation to move in with Dayna regardless of the reason. But this issue is likely to come up at some point in the future, so you should work on the conversation you will need to have. It is important that you be honest, that you make it clear that you are working on it (which you should be) and that you will take precautions so she is not inconvenienced. We hope she will care enough about you to be understanding.



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